Shame and Guilt
Healthy Shame Promotes Growth, Self-Awareness, and Intimacy
Inappropriate shame and guilt are often experienced as tormenting feelings and negative beliefs. This internal distress can arise from early developmental trauma and shock trauma.
These dynamics are reactions to the lack of harmony and support from parents towards the child.
These losses affect the nervous system, distort identifications, and lead to dysregulation. Shame operates in the background, and its power impedes self-regulation.
Due to the dynamics of attachment, the child behaves adaptively toward his parents in an inauthentic way.
Guilt must be understood as a productive mechanism. It creates, consumes, and moves, but it finds no solution.
